In my many years of being an Energy Intuitive and working on literally thousands of people, the one attribute that I've found to be a vital key to spiritual energy healing is that of FORGIVENESS. It helps people heal more fully than anything else.

Forgiveness releases us from the past. It is the answer to almost everything. When we are stuck and do not flow freely with life in the present moment, it usually means we are holding on to a past memory and there is some forgiving that needs to be done. It doesn't necessarily have to be another person. Many times it is ourselves we need to forgive, or even a particular situation. Spiritual energy healing helps us really see the big picture and realize that everything that happens in our lives is an opportunity to learn and grow, it helps us to look for the lessons in each experience--even if they sometimes arrive in disguise!

Forgiveness acts in the same way as Aikido or other martial arts. When we sidestep our attacker's force rather than resist it, not only does it save them from additional pain, but it keeps us from being hurt! When we attack back, we initiate a fight that no one can win. You've probably heard the saying, "Unforgiveness is akin to you drinking poison, and waiting for your enemy to die." When we are unforgiving, it is OUR body carrying around the heavy, negative emotions, not the person or situation we need to forgive. Just like the rattlesnake bite that fills you with venom; the snake goes on his way, not bothering to stay around to see if you forgive him or not. You then, must make the decision to get the venom out of your system, or you are the one that will suffer.

Often, the concept of forgiveness is misunderstood. When we forgive someone because we think it is the right thing to do, we're merely jumping through a socially acceptable hoop that changes nothing. Forgiving someone does not condone their behavior or what happened. It is not saying that what happened to us was okay. It simply means that we are no longer willing to allow that experience to adversely affect our lives. Don't give anymore of your life over to it. The anger that keeps us in an unforgiving state takes up so much headroom! When we make the choice to loosen our grasp, let go, and heal, what a relief it is to finally have that room in our head open and clear again, for uplifting thoughts and fresh positive ideas to come in.

We all have important missions to fulfill in the here and now. Forgiveness is letting go of the negative emotions that keep our energy and our thoughts tethered to the past, and keep us from progressing forward. The energy of love and forgiveness strengthens us, while the energy of stubbornness and unforgiveness will always weaken us. So although it may not be easy to do, it is easy to see, that forgiveness is ultimately a gift we give ourselves.

Carolyn Cooper is a gifted Energy Intuitive, author, and speaker. With amazing simplicity she aligns energy patterns to restore balance to individuals, groups and corporations.  As CEO and founder of Calyco Healing, Inc. Carolyn has created a unique energy-healing training course in which anyone can learn how to heal themselves and others. http://www.CalycoHealing.com  Carolyn is also the host of the “Living in the Flow Show” on the Women’s Information Network.