A Solution for Restless Stay-at-Home Moms
By Paula Fellingham

Judy was the mother of 14 month old Nathan. He was a good baby, and her relationship with her husband was wonderful. They lived modestly, but had all they needed. Judy reminded herself that she should be very happy ~ she should be satisfied with her life ~ but she just wasn’t.
The problem was, Judy felt like she had no life. Prior to motherhood she had been a successful businesswoman. Although she chose to stay home and be a full-time mom, her days were long and boring. Judy felt anxious much of the time - restless - and sometimes even resentful of “giving up her life” as it seemed to her.

Judy’s problem is a common one among young mothers. When women have a career they are validated - complimented and encouraged - by co-workers and employers. Fourteen month old babies just don’t do that for us.
Young mothers, used to being active and appreciated, sometimes wonder if the “trade-off” is worth it. I always assure them that motherhood is unquestionably and absolutely worth it.
One solution for Judy is to do something, everyday, that she looks forward to. For some it may be working out while the baby naps. Exercising usually makes us feel better all day long.
Or she could scrapbook in the evening for an hour or two while Dad tends Nathan, or after he goes to sleep. Then on Saturdays Judy can get a babysitter for a longer time, maybe 2 or 3 hours, so she can do something she really enjoys.
Then, when Judy’s cup is filled, she can better give love to Nathan from her overflow. She’ll be able to draw energy from her happiness and be a better, more patient mother.

Paula Fellingham is an internationally-acclaimed speaker, the author of 5 books, and the mother of 7 children. She has spoken at the United Nations and at conferences across the globe for over 30 years. Paula is a former radio talk show host and newspaper columnist. She is currently the CEO of The Women’s Information Network, www.TheWINonline.com. Paula’s mission is to strengthen women and families worldwide.