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Posted by "Shaney" - Show host for "Getting Naked"

The past few years have been a mix of emotions as what I thought I wanted more than anything became less and less important. Now, I’m at the point where I simply don’t even care. "THIS" is nothing... there is a bigger picture happening in this lifetime and I'm choosing to flow with that energy.

I had a friend once tell me “Sometimes you have to let go of what you thought you wanted to get what you really do.” That is ringing true for me and it’s time to let go.

Healing, healing, healing,… everyone of us needs some type of healing; it’s part of the human experience. Whether it be emotional, spiritual, physical, mental, we often heal through learning. Ones ability to be open to learning creates their road to success, it also means dropping the “I have my shit together” attitude. In other words, ego and self-righteousness. If we think we know it all then we have no room left for learning.

I have done an abundance of learning and each time I learn something, I simply learn there is a great deal more to learn.

Why did I start this show? Why did I start “Getting Naked?" I was going to answer this but realized, it doesn't even matter. The person I was then doesn't even exist anymore.

As the past few years have gone by, the direction my life has taken me is far from what I thought it would be, and I wouldn’t change a thing. I've opened to a new life simply by changing my views on it. This show, isn't who I am anymore. I'm moving on to the next chapter in my life. Read more ...

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Posted by "Shaney" show host for "Getting Naked"

My daughter recently graduated from high school. I am so proud of her. Maybe to some, graduating from HS isn’t a big deal. It’s expected and only a baby step into the ‘real world’. But, for me, graduating from HS is a big deal. I dropped out 3 times before I graduated and by then, I was a Mom and had my second child due in less than a month. In-fact, my graduation announcement said “After three years of being a Senior and 1 ¾ baby’s later, Shaney has finally graduated from HS. I was the only child my mom saw graduate.

I’ve never been a scholar by any stretch of the imagination. My grade-school years were spent being tested to see “what’s wrong with her”, while all I could think about was how to be a good girl so when I went home that night I wouldn’t be punished.

Most of the time, I didn’t even know what I had done was ‘bad’. But, I learned very quickly that it… or I was.

I remember in the fourth grade my teacher told the class “after recess I’m going to let you in on a little secret” Oh my gosh! I got so excited…..  I sat up a little higher in my chair, wiggled my bum and jiggled my body with pure joy. I immediately thought “THE secret to life!” Maybe this is the answer I have been looking for! Maybe she was the one who was going to tell me how to be a good girl. Maybe because she was a teacher that that’s why she knew the answer! Maybe… maybe… maybe…. I spent the entire recess joyfully coming up with all these beautiful scenarios’ on how finally the secret of life was going to be revealed! Playing and skipping… the sky looked brighter and bluer than ever before.  For I had hope. Read more ...

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Posted by show host  "Shaney" on "Getting Naked"

Have you had enough yet?

Have I had enough? And I ask myself “What’s enough?”

Last week I hit my “enough” point. I had enough and wasn’t going to do this anymore. Like a light-switch; I switched. I got pissed and in a split second, put my foot down and decided to make a change. And I did.

Everyone has a barrel that we carry our ‘enough’ in and my barrel got filled to the over-flowing point. Everyones barrel is a different size and holds different amounts. Some peoples’ barrels are big and they can take a lot while some peoples are small and they don’t take much at all. The interesting part of this is; the results are the same regardless the size of your barrel. Yes…. The results are the same regardless of the size.

“What happened?” Are you wondering what triggered my ‘enough’ button to switch? Well, I’ll tell you. The truth is; it doesn’t matter. It doesn’t matter what’s in my barrel or yours anymore than the size of it. Both are irreverent to the results.

What’s in Joe the neighbors may not be the same as what’s in yours and vice-versa, but his results are your results. Stop for a minute here. Can you stop and throw away the ‘who’s is bigger’ and ‘what’s his full of compared to mine’ competition long enough to trigger that self-righteous part of you that hides behind ego, to be open minded long enough to accept that no matter who’s is bigger or smaller; no matter what’s in theirs or not; the results are the same?   Read more ...

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Posted by "Shaney" show host for "GETTING NAKED"

Side note *Probably rated PG13 due to expression of frustrating through language* (I think that was crazy talk)

Call me CrAzY -

If I were to ask you to raise your hand if you thought you were crazy, would you?

"There is a place. Like no place on Earth. A land full of wonder, mystery, and danger! Some say to survive it: You need to be as mad as a hatter."

There was actually a point in time when I thought I wanted to be sane. A point in time that lasted over 30 years :) and not only would I have NEVER raised my hand to that question but, I probably would have slunk down into my seat hoping to conform into the shape of my chair and disappear.

My heart was hurt over and again by the rejection that I consistently felt growing up. Looking back now, a reasonable justification for this was partly due to the size of town that a portion of my up bringing occurred in. Population was about 500 and we didn't even have a stop-light.  I'm not certain due to a lack of experience - yet I would anticipate larger towns naturally and easily accept people more in general due to the wide diversity.

"But I don't want to go among mad people," Alice remarked.
"Oh, you can't help that," said the Cat: "we're all mad here. I'm mad. You're mad."
"How do you know I'm mad?" said Alice.
"You must be," said the Cat, "or you wouldn't have come here." Read more ...

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posted by "Shaney" show host for "GETTING NAKED"

Breaking the rules

When your told to do something it makes it a bit harder to do it. At least in my case as I don’t like being told what to do. There is a major difference between being ‘taught’ and ‘told’ for one thing, and the rebel side of me says ‘I’ll do what I want anyway so save your breath’. If I was asked to do something well, that changes everything. I’m eager to do it…. Unless I don’t want to.

I’m not a fan of rules. Especially human rules that have nothing to do with me…. Like taxes and tickets. Who makes up this stuff anyway? Then there are the rules about how to behave, what to say and do that’s considered ‘appropriate’. But…. Buuuut, the most and biggest rules that run our lives seem to be based on what you have to do… or can’t do… to get into heaven.  

This seems like the long awaited ‘Secret’ that we all hold out for. ‘The secret of how to get into heaven.’ How many of our lives are based around measuring our goodness and worthiness by what and who we exclude??? What we mustn’t partake or indulge in. We wake up everyday eagerly awaiting more rules to be shoved down our throats so that we know how to act. ACT. Are we really all too afraid to just be? Hiding the truth of what we believe, questions we may want answered, who we want to be, how we want to apply ourselves, what we want to experience, how we want to be seen by others, all hidden behind ‘rules’? Read more ...

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Posted by "Shaney" talk show host of "GETTING NAKED"

I'M LOST BUT STANDING IN MY KITCHEN-

Have you ever felt lost, yet were somewhere familiar like at home? How many times do we see with our own eyes what’s going on yet have no clue what just happened? What about when you make a solid plan to receive specific results and nothing turns out the way you expected? I’m not sure about you, but for me… when these have happened, I generally had an overwhelming feeling of ’WTF’ and stood dazed and confused until I could logically make up some reason to give my brain an answer that seemed to make sense. Because I didn’t know the truth. Obviously.

A person dies and their spirit goes to heaven right? Isn’t that the general rule and consensus that we all have been told? Of-course taking into account that that is only if you’ve been ‘good’ or the opposite is you’ve been ‘bad’ and your spirit goes to hell. This is a whole ‘nother subject that I will get into later because it has nothing to do with what I’m talking about right now. So, let that one go for the moment. What I’m talking about isn’t when a person dies and their spirit leaves their body. I’m going to introduce you to what happens when your spirit leaves your body when it is still alive. Huh? Yes. This happens. Your body is functioning like an empty tomb. The walking dead. No spirit inside… yet, heart is beating, lungs are breathing and you’re still driving your car to work. Read more ...

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Posted BY "Shaney" show host for "GETTING NAKED"

If words easily offend you then viewer discretion advised.

I will say right up-front: I'm not here to be 'nice' and ensure I'm liked by everyone. I am not here teaching you how to 'Win friends and influence people'. I am here to help you find yourself. The truth of who you are. Not the truth of how everyone else views you. Does this mean I'm not a nice person??? Does this mean I don't have friends or influence people??? No... it means if that happens then it naturally happens by me simply being me. But NEVER do I alter or change who I am for anyone elses opinion of me to change. I live, breathe and act in the truth of who I am.

-I recently received my first piece of 'hate mail'. For many, this would have been devastating. It would have crushed them so deeply that they ended up spending their entire day wondering what they had done to deserve such mean, cruel, words. Worries and woes... wondering and questioning.... ultimately leaving them doubting them self then finally crying until they fell asleep that night. This could have been my reaction... but it wasn't. 

This could have been my reaction as little a year ago even. I could have really let this get to me and allowed it to hurt my feelings deeply. I could have let it make me question "who I am" and allowed it to sink me into insecurities and self-doubt. But it didn't. Not because I 'fought' against these reactions... but because this simply isn't the way I reacted. My reaction was at first a chuckle in a 'this person really doesn't get it" sort-of way, then I felt compassion for the person who wrote it. Read more ...

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Posted by 'Shaney' -host for "Getting Naked"

WILL YOU STILL LOVE ME??

Is that what we all truly wonder? Is that what we all fear? Is this the truth to why we hide; Yet, cover even this?

You can read right through me. And it makes me not want to say anymore.

I'm so afraid you'll leave and not give me the chance to show you who I really am - The deeper side of me; the one that's bare and unhidden.

Will you still love me when you read the lines with-in my soul? When you know what I'm thinking even when I'm not speaking? Or when you know what I'm going to say before I think, hear or feel what I may say?

Will you still love me when I'm bare and un-hidden? Not trying to impress you; showing you only what I think are my good traits... and those that are worth loving?

How dignified and naive I am. Trying to prove I am worth loving... when I question it myself?

If you say "Yes".. you will still love me - How do you know? You can't promise me love before you see "me".

What if I say or do something you don't completely understand and don't agree with? Will you love me enough to stay by me until those things are further understood?

Or will you leave me and not give me the chance to show you who I really am?

Will you still love me? And still not understand nor agree with me, but know that love isn't always understood?

Why? Why will you still love me? Is it because we disagree and you see I do think before I speak?

If you say "Yes" -Can you tell me why you love me? Or am I asking because I need to know reasons to love myself?

Deep in me... I'm bare and raw, vulnerable and open. I'm insecure.. and I don't want to say anymore.

Blog entry by "Shaney" show host for "Getting Naked"

Lets talk judgment.

First, I want to commend you for having the awareness to even approach this subject with such wisdom, openness to learn and grow as well as have the courage to question it.

I believe there are -two- kinds of judgment: 

1- "Survival judgment" This is when you go near the edge of a cliff and you back away because you know you may die". Very simple.

2- "Ego Judgment" This is when you look at someone with blue hair (this example is used literally as well as an allegory) and form an opinion on that person's characture. You base your opinion on the fact that there hair is different than yours; there-fore making it different than it 'should' be; therefore deciding you don't like that person because they are different than you or different than the way  you think they 'should' be.

"Survival judgment" is required for all living things. Read more ...

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What if you were told everything you thought about your life was a lie? Or maybe in not such harsh words, more of a ‘misperception’? What if everything you thought you knew about who you were was stripped away…. and you were left vulnerably naked.

 And how many times does this have to happen for you to discover the TRUTH?

Well folks, I’m here to tell you: Everything you have thought up to this point in your life is a lie. It’s false. It’s only a line in a movie that gets you ‘hooked’.  

What parts of your life are you so sure about that nothing could strip it from your soul? What TRUTHS about yourself resonate so deep that being naked can’t touch?

Are you willing to go this deep? Or does your fear keep you surface level and ‘safe’?

What if you were a game being played? Possibly even an experiment? Or Merely a puppet? What if all of the hurt you’ve ever experienced wasn’t real? What if your life story was intentionally written to create confusion? To test your TRUTHS?

When someone calls you out and your ‘secret’ is exposed how do you react? Read more ...