[Answers to "Ask the Therapist" are excerpted from Transform Your Life Instantly: Erase & Replace Programs and Emotions Make the Law of Attraction Work for You... Instead of Against You(c) 2011 Adele Tartaglia]

You are doing the right things to support yourself and you have made a lot of progress. Using tools to reformat some belief systems and thinking patterns will allow your own inner direction will become evident to you.

I was reading over your intake form and when you finish telling me about your priorities, we will continue to look for the underlying core beliefs. We can help define and narrow down your goal so we can work on blocks specific to the exact result you are trying to manifest.

You have a normal outpicturing of a critical judgmental childhood environment.
From this type of emotionally abusive conditioning, self doubt, lack of self worth, and addiction to directions develops. The child becomes filled with inadequacy beliefs that stymie their developing a normal healthy ego structure. Adding the “I’m invisible” identity that comes from being ignored, to the “Unworthiness” identity compounds the situation.

The person becomes convinced they cannot make decisions for themselves, gives up trying, and becomes co-dependent assuming that everyone else knows better than they do what to do with their lives. Many a mistaken turn in life, including ill fated marriages, result from following what others tell you to do without analyzing it and seeing if their advice fits your goals or even who you are. But when you come to depend on others to control your life, assume everyone but you is smart enough to make your life decisions, this is what happens. Interestingly enough accepted as a child as the way life is, as an adult, resentment, conflict, and resistance often accompany these inculcated patterns of behavior and sabotage our desires even more.

Confusion over what you do want out of life, or even what occupation you want to dedicate your life to, often results. When we are judged not able or competent to make our own decisions during our upbringing, we shut down and stop thinking for ourselves. We can become extensions of our parents instead of ourselves and the more dominated we are, the less we know ourselves or what we want. These are the people pleasers who follow orders and never ask why.

This will last throughout life until it is removed with an identity protocol or many successful experiences. Removing the persona entirely keeps it from reappearing in the future. The shift in attitude about your capabilities that comes from being successful can apply solely to that area of life and not overlap into other areas of life. You may feel competent on the job but feel entirely ill equipped in relationships. By deleting and restructuring the entire gestalt of unworthiness, every area of your experience changes immediately in light of the new program about your inherent worth, particular areas of expertise, and the absence of formerly negative demeaning beliefs about yourself that were previously deeply integrated into your psyche.
As a start we can remove the mental concept that you don’t know what’s best for you and the ‘I’m Invisible’ identity and do some life alignment and goal setting so you know what you have passion for in life and then proceed to lay out a strategic plan to actualize that goal.

Right now the beliefs..... ‘I'm not smart enough,' 'I'm not heard [invisible]' 'I have to do it perfectly,' that stems from never being good enough combined with your lack conscious money issues are enough to keep you discouraged, sabotage your motivation, and make you afraid to take a chance on the life you actually know is the right one for you to pursue. We can handle these issues easily enough in a few sessions.

In the meantime, remember when anything consumes your thoughts...not only does it drain you and cause stress, depression and hopelessness, but worrying about it actually manifests the continuation of the very problem you are concerned about. Energy is energy and it always creates the object of its attention, particles of attention being the manifesting factor in an energy universe.

Until then, keep your attention off anything that worries you, and put it on something that reassures you, makes you feel competent, and keeps you out of resistance to these old patterns of thought until we can delete them.

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