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Often we are asked if there are gender differences in body language. In the past 20-30 years, the conventional perception was that in general, women are more communicative than men, both literally and with their body language. Today, the gap is blurry.

Women and men express the same body language positions, gestures and facial expressions, that’s why it’s called body language. It’s a matter of communication, if there were too many differences we couldn’t have called it ”language”.

It is very crucial to look at a cluster of gestures pointing at the same direction and not only at one gesture before coming to any conclusion, it’s as if we are listening to one word out of a whole sentence and assume we understand it.

Even today, in modern life, there are slight gender differences in the extent and duration of gestures, yet the distinction requires more training and experience than learning basic body language.

Examples of a slight gender differences in extent or duration of a particular gesture:

1. Everyone strokes their hair with their fingers – in women, the duration is slightly longer.

2. Men and women will both bite their lower lip in times of stress, lick their lips when sensing dry mouth or attraction, in women though it’s more observable because it is a bit more frequent and sustained.

3. Women are capable of tilting their head longer than men while listening to others, perhaps because they concentrate more on the verbal communication’s details which creates the whole picture. You can see an example of this situation when two men sit at a restaurant table, they usually will sit facing each other. Women, will often sit side by side.

4. Women and men blink frequently when they are interested in the conversation. With women it’s just more obvious and noticeable to the eye of the observer. It could be because of their makeup. Read more ...

Body language cards teach workers non-verbal cues that position them for hiring

Your body language during an interview may be revealing things to a potential boss that you didn't know. The interviewer's body language also can reveal what he/she is thinking. Learning how to use and read non-verbal cues can give job seekers a clear advantage over other contenders.

"Job seekers invest a lot in preparation for an interview: new clothes; perfect hair and nails; company research, and role playing the interview so they have all the right answers. But knowing how to use non-verbal cues and communication to build trust and confidence is just as important," said Gil Shermeister, behavioral zoologist that 12 years ago co-invented the Body Language Cards, a method used in the training of executives, sales forces and professional security personnel.

Shermeister's top six interview tips include:

1. When entering the interview, people tend to create an imaginary barrier to protect themselves by clutching a handbag or crossing their arms. To the interviewer this "says" insecurity. Keep an open body stance (no crossed arms or legs) and maintain eye contact.

2. Avoid making the upper hand handshake which indicates a need to dominate.

3. If interviewed by several people, always identify the decision-maker. This is the person others glance at when they are finished talking. Direct comments/replies to the decision-maker.

4. Under stress people instinctively tend to protect the main artery. In modern society it is manifested by touching the tie or playing with a necklace. Don't fidget with jewelry or garments in this way.

5. The interviewer may reveal a need for more information by putting an object in his/her mouth or motioning with a pen or the tip of the glasses. Take the cue and provide more details. Read more ...

Body language is a major part of our daily communication skills, 55% of our communication is delivered through our body gestures, 38% of our daily communication is the voice and pitch, and only 7% is what we say. Body language is very important and mastering it will improve your communication and life skills in all aspects of life.

So we've created the easiest way to master body language.

The Body Language Cards were created by a team of experts as a training tool to help you recognize the most common body language gestures, and how to use their meaning to your advantage in a simple and easy way. It is based on the flash card methodology and the visual cards with short description send a signal to our brain that it’s a game and not another bulk of information we have to learn. People like to play and thus the information is more effectively consolidated.

“Using visual perception to master body language utilizes our brain’s natural wiring to process visual information in a remarkably effective way while simplifying and condensing information so that you only learn and retain the important facts.”

Moran Cerf, Ph.D. - Computational Neuroscience

Today, most of the information on body language is organized in books, yet body language is a visual mode of communication, and the crucial aspect is to have the visual memory of the movement in mind when one encounters the relevant gesture.

We suggest few easy ways to learn and master body language. It can be done individually or in a group as a game. For training in a group, each participant receive a card and take turn to act out the gesture. The rest of the participants try to guess what the gesture mean, the participant with the card read the back of the card to the rest of the group. Added training: Ask participants what can be done to change the atmosphere if a certain gesture is exhibited during a sales meeting, a social meeting, at home, at work, at an interview, on a date, at a presentation, etc. Read more ...

  It's all about people! Remember that when you network and interact with others! Learn how to do it effectively from our guest Bonnie Ross-Parker, America's Connection Diva who will uncover secrets of successful networking and give you valuable tips for life.

Go to www.EQforSuccess.com or www.Facebook.com/EQforSuccess to learn more about Emotional Intelligence and Interpersonal Relationships.

Most of the time even happily single people find the Holiday season to be agonizing. The television shows depict happy couples attending Christmas parties, kissing under the mistletoe or sharing time with family and friends. Let’s not forget New Year’s Eve and the romantic kiss between lovers at the stroke of midnight. The happiest of singles can feel a little gloomy, even if it is just momentarily. Now, what happens when someone experiences a break up around the holiday season? Your emotions are already on high alert; crying at the drop of a dime, lashing out at others, making rash decisions or, spending money you don’t have. So, here are 10 useful tips for surviving a break-up around the holiday season:

1. Increase your social support ( socialize with other single friends)

2. Talk to a close friend or family member

3. Focus on giving back ( volunteer for a non-profit organization)

4. Remove any reminders of the relationship from your home

5. Do something special for yourself.

6. Don’t obsess about your relationship status

7. Don’t over use alcohol or drugs to cover up your feelings

8. Don’t do the blame game. Try to avoid the source of your frustrations.

9. Try to avoid rebound sex.

10. Unfriend them on Facebook; delete text messages and pictures from your mobile device

Good Luck!
Shuntai Beaugard, Relationship Coach
www.shuntaibeaugard.com

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This is my inaugural interview hosted by Rachel Flower, introducing me to you! Listen and enjoy. Then check back for insightful, entertaining and evocative videos all about romance, relationships, passion and purpose, with a bias toward honoring and empowering the feminine in all aspects. You'll like what you see (and hear)!

This video will explain the concept of Emotional Intelligence and describe the 5 scales and 15 subscales of the new EQ-i 2.0 model of Emotional Intelligence. 

Emotional Intelligence is a set of emotional and social skills that collectively establish how well we perceive and express ourselves, develop and maintain social relationships, cope with challenge, and use information in and effective and meaningful way.

The History of Emotional Intelligence:

The first mention of Emotional Intelligence (also called EQ or EI) occurred in the 1920’s when Edward Thorndike referred to this concept as "social intelligence/emotional factors.” Daniel Goleman, Ph.D. has since earned the title of the “Father of Emotional Intelligence” for his extensive research and development on this subject. Many reputable sources consider Emotional Intelligence to be the new science of interpersonal relationships. The interest in this hot topic continues to increase exponentially and several definitions of Emotional Intelligence have emerged. The following is a summary of the various definitions of Emotional Intelligence which will help you to better understand this concept.

According to MHS, Inc., Emotional Intelligence is a set of emotional and social skills that collectively establish how well we: Read more ...

Today on the show, we have 2 interesting stories.  The first, the turkey club, may get you hungry as we describe how to make a sandwich. But this isn’t just any old sandwich, it’s a club sandwich.

The 2^nd tale entitled the 2 questions only asks  2 questions, but they are sure good ones. 

So on the show today, we’ll be eatin and askin.