I babysat a friend’s 16-month old daughter on Saturday night. Being inexperienced in this realm, there’s always a smidgen of anxiety regrading this responsibility, but Lauren made it easy for me. She’s not yet able to talk properly, but can definitely demonstrate what she wants!

• She wanted a slide flipped over to the step-side for her to be able to climb up into her play-gym. She kept tugging at it until I understood and turned it around. She then bounded up the steps happily.
• At one point, I found her sitting in her stroller, strapping herself in. She clearly wanted to be taken for a walk.
• At dinner time, she pointed at her high chair, wanting to be lifted into it. She was hungry.

She made the babysitting experience incredibly easy. Just having her needs met, as she expressed them, made her feel content and peaceful. And, oddly enough, they weren’t tough needs to meet.

Why then, as adults do we lose the ability to clearly communicate to others, especially our partners, what we want from them?

 Is it because at some level we believe that old adage of ‘if he really loves me and understands me, then he’ll know what I want.”  But all that this kind of ‘guessing’ communication achieves is to make your life harder for yourself.

You’ll have certain needs in life; love, security, support, acknowledgement, respect, sincerity, communication, freedom etc. Asking for some of these from your partner is part and parcel of any relationship – just as feeding and playing with Lauren was part of babysitting her.

It’s what I signed up to do – but I was fortunate - she helped me. When changing her for bed and struggling to get her top off, she actually stood up and raised her little arms over her head! Easy. Read more ...

When do you give up?

now?
when you lose your passion?
never?
or, you don't even start?

That's a question I ask myself every once in a while, when do you give up or do you? Since I'm one of those girls who has multiple projects on the go, I am often wondering what is the right thing to do. I am a visionary - a starter - I love when I get new ideas and then I start a new project and watch it grow from being an itty bitty idea, to a giant idea, to being in progress to actual completion. And then I make a decision about whether I'm going to do it again, continue it or put it on the back burner for another time or move on to the next big idea that interests me.

I'm always so hesitant to give up on a project because you never know when it's going to sprout and then explode into that awesome masterpiece you want it to be. Well, that just happened to me. About three years ago I had an idea - I wanted to know if men in wheelchairs could have sex. Seriously, I wanted to know. Don't you? I met a producer at a business mixer who said he was looking for more projects to work on and so I went home and thought about things and said to Max, my husband, "What do you think about a tv show about people with disabilities and sexuality?" He had this curious look on his face and said, "hmmmm, you may be on to something, not sure, but why not ask." So I did. I phoned the producer the next day, set up a meeting and away Max and I went.

I said to him, "Hey, have you ever wondered if men in wheelchairs could have sex?" And I just about saw him fall to the ground. He said, "Wow, yes I have, can they?" And I said, "I don't know, but why don't we do a documentary about it and find out?" And that was the start of SexAbility. Read more ...

 Introducing the Fraud Dog!

Studies show that the happier wives are with the division of household responsibilities, the happier husbands are with their sex lives, and the less risk there is in the marriage for divorce. In this episode #032 "Husbands, Housework, Divorce and Sex" on "The Marital Intimacy Show," intimacy expert, Laura M. Brotherson discusses this important factor in happy marriages and suggests how couples can share the household responsibilities more evenly. 

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We live in our little house in our little neighborhood in our little town...and we live happily...hmm! for awhile!

It may be time to step outside of the box; outside of your comfort zone.

Amazing Women:

Being a leader in your life and your business is about taking big steps and saying yes, even when you don’t know how you’ll do it! Enjoy this episode as I share personal stories about some big leaps I’ve taken in my career, what it takes and specific steps you can take immediately so you can keep soaring in yours!