It is interesting to be a woman of a certain age these days. The advent of the Internet has really changed the dating scene. With much courage I ventured out into Facebook Land to see if there was Man to connect with. Happily I know there is. In the meantime, I thought "what the heck, let's play, nothing to loose this day". I kept my heart at bay and like a man of a younger age, my heart safely locked away. (consciously temporarily so by choice) Ego is full swig, There is a sense of power, knowing and confidence that age brings, plus a sense of humor about oneself that only self-awareness bring tempers the ego and allow joy to sing.

Although clear what I'm looking for long term, something fun, adventurous, daring and provocative presented itself. I received lots of interest from far and wide, much to my surprise. Some I corresponded with, some went live. Some just became a place to play and give the "Jack Ass viewing Man" a generation of younger men who I'm still finding playful and a bit "stupid silly pranksters without limits " a try. So young and fun these guys are with their bevy of little women hanging on their every phrase. Matching wits was a player's game. One you hear in today's music and shy away from. Until, giving it a whirl becomes fun. So long as I didn't hurt anyone. I was surprised at how easily I could dumb down and fit in. That is to say, drop twenty years,, release all proper social norms but one (wear a condom) and talk like a virgin from the sixties as opposed to one from today.

So a fun tryst with a younger man jumped off the page. Into the a familiar carefree realm of puns and sex talk. Energetic sexy fun exchanges and play time. No one getting hurt, the kitchen just got hot.

As the experienced Cougar,  I observed myself at play. I had fun. I maintained my dignity and then let it slip away. I feel like I did as a teenager, in uncertain waters. Knowing I don't want to hurt feelings and that in truth, its only my ego that's a little bruised. While actually my ego is fine, all of me is. That's the irony of this. Old enough to remain detached, young enough to have some fun. But here I am at 2:45am wondering what have I done. I laugh at myself really, thinking oh how cliche. But is has been fun and at least I've been safe.

So my friends, I thought I'd confess...I may have been as bad as a reality show guest. I'll take my bow, Put back on my self respect and let real love I have for myself reflect back and find me as I let go of the get.

Being a Cougar is no better than taking candy from a baby. I'm not saying I won't date younger men again. Just that my days of playing in the world of "talk dirty to me baby" pun intended lost its luster very quickly. Apologies to anyone hurt my venture out into the wild animal park. To me it was fun petting the bear cubs and feeding the lions.

If there is a lesson to be learned, it gets easier to be a woman in a man's world the older I get. Glass ceilings don't exist in relationships and relationships are more than school  for boys to learn how to be men and enjoy sex.

Judge me not please. All participants had fun. No one was hurt and learning was done. There's just more to the Cougar lifestyle than meets the eye. I think I'll take the seasoned guy.

From all the advice given...go for it, love the one your with, check out the younger men, play have fun. Okay been there done that now. You're all right it was a BLAST! Ego is charged. Heart is safe. Mind not so stimulated. Body satisfied. But life partner, companion, relationship this wasn't that. Distraction at best, fun at worst. Another level of experience for sure.

Hopefully, it will make be a better woman, lover, friend to a soul matched Man. The good news is, I love who I am. I like who I am. I know that this too has made me a better person. And, now Men, I finally get it, it is possible to have "just sex" completely detached for the fun of it. I can't say it is as fulfilling on all levels, but fun, heck yeah! So my hats off to you guys.

Another skill acquired. ONWARD! Peace, love, joy, light, laughter and knowing LIFE IS GOOD!