The No Fighting Rule
Episode Number:
049
Show:
Parental Power 
Your brain has been equipped with a “Fight or Flight” mechanism to help keep you safe. One clear problem that this creates is that family problems are usually made worse by fighting. In fact, with some families that come to our office, fighting IS the main problem that is bothering them.
Fighting is a choice. It doesn’t feel like it is a choice when you are locked into your fight or flight response. To reclaim your choice, you have to reclaim your brain. Take a time out and focus on your breathing to get the brain turned back on so you can think.
Parents often get pulled into the fighting because they don’t see any other options. Remember that it is more important to do what’s right than to respond immediately. You can always buy some time and then gather and collect your resources.
Kids are dealing with their own fight or flight responses, and when parents are fighting it invites kids to fight as well. Remember one of the basic rules of parenting is to invite kids to think not fight.
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