It's never about the other person....there's no one doing it to us....every things an inside job. No matter what we are experiencing, no matter how it appears to be someone else’s fault, someone else’s personality defect, someone else’s manipulation or lie, it isn’t. Everything in our lives sources from the content in our own multi-leveled mind.

The beliefs, programs, memories, expectations, and emotions stored in our data bank, our subconscious mind, trigger in response to every event and are set on automatic create to continue the old operating systems, habitual reactions, biases, and goals that were installed there beginning from conception.

When we change our sabotaging beliefs, our habitual thinking patterns, and routine behaviors, our life changes, our moods change, our expectations change, and we attract what we want to be attracting...our expectations being the prime force in creating and attracting. We get what we expect.

We all have expectations based on our beliefs and frames of reference about what a person should be, a woman or man should be, a wife or husband should be, a child should be, a parent should be.

Until you release those personal biased "Shoulds" you will have expectations of how they should be or must be in order for you to be happy, stay in the relationship, continue to love them, etc.

And when they are not that, you get to feel bad. Then you get to play the denial projection game of it’s not my fault I feel bad, am miserable, am incapacitated, am a failure….it’s your fault. 

Here’s this week’s lesson to take away … It's never about the other person....there's no one doing it to us....every things an inside job. Everything in our lives sources from the content in our own multi-leveled mind.

Your homework is to write in your journal your analysis of your expectations for the people you love. Think about the way you treat them, label them, and try to control them in order to make your life better.  Then note 4 reasons why this will never work to improve your life based on today’s show.

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