“A boy and a girl were playing together. The boy had a collection of marbles. The girl had some sweets with her. The boy told the girl that he will give her all his marbles in exchange for her sweets. The girl agreed.
 
The boy kept the biggest and the most beautiful marble aside and gave the rest to the girl. The girl gave him all her sweets as she had promised.
 
That night, the girl slept peacefully. But the boy couldn’t sleep as he kept wondering if the girl had hidden some sweets from him the way he had hidden his best marble.”
 
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People come into our lives as mirrors–to reflect back to us parts of ourselves that deserve more growth. Often, we ‘accuse’ them of wrongs and misgivings, when none has occurred. Even if it has occurred, the only thing we can ever really betray is our own divinity. Most of the time, we perceive and gather evidence against other people because of where WE are, not where they are. We are triggered into a state of upset because of the brokenness still inside of us.
 
I love this quote by Byron Katie:
 
“‘Love thy neighbor as thyself.’ I always have. I hated me, I hated you.”
 
How we show up with ourselves is how we show up with others…and no better.  The things I loathe about  others are always the things I loathe  (and usually haven’t claimed) in myself.  The trust issues I have with another person really just reflect how I don’t trust myself in discerning with whom I can, and cannot, engage in relationships.   In the end, every time we call a “reflector experience” or person into our lives it is a monumental gift of growth–especially the ones who trigger big reactions.  When those reactions occur, if we ask, “how is this a mirror for me?” we can learn from what life has to offer us.   When we choose to be open students, instead of angry and blameful people, we can move through these life lessons quickly, gain the very most from our earth school experience, and graduate onto higher, more peaceful levels of learning