Dr Jan says: In my Fight-free Families book, I describe 15 good reasons to fight!

It’s normal for folk to fight – we all have a need to be heard and understood.! Fair-Fighting lets you air differences and find compromises that you both can live with, and it helps you stay connected.

Dirty-Fighting Habit #1: Swallowing your gripes, then dumping them all at once 

Dirty-Fighting Habit #2: Playing prosecutor

Dirty-Fighting Habit #3: Getting too intense

Dirty-Fighting Habit #4: Trying to win at all costs

Dirty-Fighting Habit #5: Turning off the Love

Dirty-Fighting Habit #6: Getting defensive

Dirty-Fighting Habit #7: Being nasty and even toxic

Adapted from John Gottman